As you continue to navigate through life, one thing is certain: you will need to learn to please yourself first and stop worrying about everybody else. Don’t get me wrong, I am not telling anyone to be self-centered or selfish, however, you must learn to prioritize yourself and do things that bring you mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual fulfillment. Women naturally are conditioned to take care of others and oftentimes neglect themself. It’s a dangerous game to consistently put your career, family, and friends before your own needs. If you don’t pour into yourself, then you will have nothing left to give and eventually burn out.
This notion of “pleasing yourself” is definitely a work in progress in my life. I still feel some kind of guilt when I plan a day for myself and choose to leave my children and spouse behind. Ironically, in our modern-day culture, most men don’t have any problems spending time with their friends/family and enjoy some “alone” time. Particularly in many cultural groups, it is expected for women to be home and find joy and contentment right there.
Let me pause right here to clarify that if you choose to stay home and love it, that’s your choice and if you are happy keep doing it your way. I simply want to continue to empower all women to do whatever they need to find and maintain balance in all areas of their lives. At some point, children grow up, you retire, and then life changes and you must continue to find fulfillment in life and enjoy the new adventures. Whether your home is full of people, or you find yourself alone; self-love and self-care is essential for your total wellness.
I challenge each one of you to incorporate a new self-care activity this week and truly reflect on how it makes you feel. Don’t worry about what others may say or think, just “DO IT” for you!